Dealing with unsupportive partners when you’re a creative
Creative people rely on their affect, talents, and techniques to engage in creative endeavors. A lot of the work you do takes places in solitude, as this is the space where creative ideas have the room to emerge and expand in an uncensored way. You reach deep within into the depths of your consciousness and take risks by plunging into the unknown without much of a guarantee of fame or success. And while creative people have been described as introverted and thinking types (not always the case) able to support themselves in the process of creativity, we’re still social beings and need people around us. We need a good supportive…
How self-insults turn into self-fulfilling prophecies
Words are powerful and words can hurt is the adage we carry with us throughout our lives; how much or whether we really apply it are a different matter. What I want to focus on is that when we choose to follow it we do so when it comes to others and almost never when it comes to ourselves. Creative types are particularly apt at putting themselves down through the internal language they use. We constantly worry whether other people like us, how they feel about us and think of us and we never seem to worry too much about how our own words impact us. You are the person…
“Walking in my shoes”
Often, you feel so misunderstood or not understood at all. Others might have more ardent issues than you do, and this is not a game of comparison “who has it the worst”. Your issues feel like they hurt more, because they are yours and you can feel them. We try to put ourselves in other people’s shoes and we can get it; but not entirely and never fully. Still, you do know how emotions feel like to you. Enjoy this Depeche Mode song! “Try walking in my shoes You’ll stumble in my footsteps.”
A random thought on dealing with emotions
We respond well to emotions, particularly if they’re not ours. We enjoy watching movies, reading books, and listening to music because in them, we can find a familiarity that is removed from the personal. We use escapism when we convince ourselves that it’s easier and more doable to empathize with ourselves if we witness those emotions experienced by other people first. We are entranced by emotions yet we find it hard to be comfortable with our own feelings. It simply feels easier to relate through watching others; this way, we feel as though we don’t have to deal with them on our own. Suppressing and repressing emotions. In a way,…
